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Announcing and Free E-book Giveaway

Posted on Jul. 22, 2011

I have just launched

Before we launched the new NCFIC web site in January 2009, my blog was known as It was more general, but it was always filled with things related to the reformation of church and family life—because that is an area I am keenly interested in. In 2009, we simply folded my blog into the new NCFIC site.

Before that time on, I spoke about a much wider range of issues than I have been on the NCFIC blog. Now, I am going back to that with the new version of

The current NCFIC blog will be more focused and have contributions from FIC church leaders around the nation.

1. It will focus the blog on FIC issues.

2. It will give exposure to other FIC leaders.

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Family Integration is not Central but…

Posted on Jul. 20, 2011

The issue of age-integrated discipleship and how it relates to every ministry in church life is not of central importance. However, what makes the issue extremely important is that it drives a discussion about something that is central - the authority of Jesus Christ in His Church. It causes us to ask a most important question: “Are the words of Christ sufficient?” “Has he spoken enough to us in order to govern ministry to youth and families and the lost?”

This divisive issue raises hackles that must be tamed by Scripture alone.

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Tim Challies’ Harsh Review of

Posted on Jul. 20, 2011

Tim Challies has just launched a provocative review of our film, Divided. I thought it would be helpful to supply some clarifying information that may not have been represented in the review. I have appreciated reading Tim Challies’ blog for many years, and I consider his ministry to me a blessing. I will continue to glean from him.

Tim made an unfounded remark when he said that the NCFIC is “making family integration the pivotal and central doctrine for the church. It identifies a genuine problem but attempts to solve it in a way that elevates methodology instead of the gospel message.” This is completely false and contrary to what we have always maintained rather publicly. In the FAQ section of the NCFIC web site, we make this statement under the heading, What is the NCFIC’s Purpose:

...We do not believe that family-integration is the only—or even the primary—issue in selecting or establishing a local church. But it is unquestionably a defining issue of our day as the modern church has lost the essential familistic culture that we see modeled in the New Testament.

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RC Sproul Jr. on What is a Family-Integrated Church?

Posted on Jul. 19, 2011

Our friend RC Sproul Jr. has written an issue of his “Kingdom Notes” on, “What is a Family-Integrated Church?” I always look forward to getting the “Kingdom Notes” newsletter, which comes weekly. It is always a refreshing read. It is full of insight and powerful observations. You can sign up for it by clicking here.

Though it sounds rather complicated and perhaps a smidge experimental, the concept is both simple and ancient. A family integrated church is one that encourages keeping families together by keeping them together. It is a church where families together study the Bible, where families together worship the living God, where families together serve both the church and the world in the name of Jesus Christ.

We fight against a Devil that desperately fights against the family. While we are on guard, as we ought to be, against assaults on the family in the political sphere, we often miss the serpent’s subtleties. The broader culture attacks our families by dividing them. It constructs demographic groups to replace family identity. Each group has its own language, its own clothing, its own music, its own events, its own identity. Our homes, once symbols of togetherness, have now become little more than apartment complexes, designed to keep us apart. Each family member not only has his own room, but in many homes his own phone, television, music system, gaming system. We don’t even share dinner together as Mom rushes off to her book club, Dad heads back to the office, Junior catches a ride to little league practice, and Princess heads off to the youth group meeting. Messages taped to the refrigerator are the apex of our togetherness.

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How Important is Age Integration in the Grand Scheme of Things?

Posted on Jul. 18, 2011

Defining the Importance of this Issue

All crises are not created equal. Some problems in the modern church are worse than others. The most devastating problem the church faces in any era is the perversion of the gospel and, therefore, the church must always endeavor to preserv

e and to present the gospel clearly. Perversions of the gospel of Christ should always be met with the most aggressive stance and authoritative arguments after the pattern of the apostle Paul, who said: “But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed” (Gal. 1:8). Paul m

et this problem among the believers in the Galatian churches, addressing it with passion, clarity, and fatherly concern: “O foolish Galatians! Who has bewitched you,” and, “I am afraid for you” (Gal. 3:1, 4:11).

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Divided Update

Posted on Jul. 16, 2011

It has been one week since we launched Divided for free online.

There have been over 18,000 people who have played it.

What happened? People were forwarding the link and posting it on Facebook. I was on six radio interviews, and we purchased a full page advertisement in World Magazine. We are encouraged! We think that this has the potential to reach thousands of people.

We have very specific ads, which we would like to purchase in order to increase the viewership ofDivided. Would you consider helping us, by donating to help spread the message of Divided?

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Posted on Jul. 15, 2011


Please visit Following are some details about the NCFIC blog and

A More Focused NCFIC Blog

The NCFIC blog will be more focused and have contributions from FIC church leaders around the nation.

1. It will focus the blog on FIC issues.

2. It will give exposure to other FIC leaders.

3. It will show people who they can talk to in their regions.

Why? There are so many more new churches and families that are engaging this discussion. It needs a laser beam focus in order to answer questions and frame discussions. We want the people coming to the NCFIC blog to quickly get the scoop on FIC issues. So our goal is to provide a highly-targeted information source for the new wave of existing church transformations.

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Join the Divided Contest

Posted on Jul. 15, 2011

There are many issues that are facing the modern church. One of the defining issues facing the church in our times is the relation of the church and family. Divided the movie directly addresses this issue.

Last week, the NCFIC launched Divided the movie for free online. With only a week into it, the video has had 15,000 views, by God’s grace.

The NCFIC desires that, if God wills, the life-transforming message of Divided reach thousands of people worldwide. Therefore, we are asking you to help us.

The NCFIC is launching a contest or essentially a type of work program, in which the top three producers will receive monetary compensation. The grand prize is $1,000.

For more details and to sign up, click here.

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Where are the Titus 2 Women?

Posted on Jul. 14, 2011

There are very few older women teaching the younger women the way Titus 2 commands. There are so few of them for at least two reasons. First, the church has departed from trust in Scripture and, as a result, women have not been taught that this should be their role. Second, we have gutted the generational culture of the church and segregated it by age. The result is that the older are functionally separated from the younger. My heart breaks for younger women who do not have older women to help them love their husbands and their children. Elizabeth Eliot speaks profoundly on this matter: 

It would help younger women to know there are a few listening ears when they don’t know what to do with an uncommunicative husband, a 25-pound turkey, or a two-year-old’s tantrum. It is doubtful that the Apostle Paul had in mind Bible classes or seminars or books when he spoke of teaching younger woman. He meant the simple things, the every day example, the willingness to take time from one’s own concerns to pray with the anxious mother, walk with her the way of the cross—with it’s tremendous demands of patience, selflessness, lovingkindness—and to show her, in the ordinariness of Monday through Saturday, how to keep a quiet heart.

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