Church leaders need to be very careful in constructing the program of the church so it does not destroy family life. Many elements of the modern church inventions do just that. Jesus chastised the leaders of Israel for doing just that. He confronts them for setting up manmade traditions in the Jewish church, that eclipsed the commandments of God for the family to honor parents in their old age. They prioritized what God did not command for things that He did command. In other words, the tradition of Corban, was created and it hindered what was explicitly required - honor for aging parents, Mark 7:6-13
"He answered and said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written:
‘This people honors Me with their
lips, But their heart is far from Me.
7 And in vain they worship Me,
Teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’
8 For laying aside the commandment of God, you hold the tradition of men—the washing of pitchers and cups, and many other such things you do.”
9 He said to them, “All too well you reject the commandment of God, that you may keep your tradition. 10 For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and, ‘He who curses father or mother, let him be put to death.’ 11 But you say, ‘If a man says to his father or mother, “Whatever profit you might have received from me is Corban”—’ (that is, a gift to God), 12 then you no longer let him do anything for his father or his mother, 13 making the word of God of no effect through your tradition which you have handed down. And many such things you do.”
The New King James Version. (Mk 7:6–13).
Only God has authority to construct church life. His Word gives the blueprints. When we default to our own pragmatic and often legalistic traditions, we end up minimizing or even destroying something that God has explicitly commanded.