Have you ever needed detailed but practical counsel for your marriage? Have you ever wished someone would speak to everyday matters in your marriage and family life? Have you ever heard sound teaching, but longed for more than broad theological principles? You wanted someone to speak frankly. You needed someone to show you exactly how biblical principles are applied in real situations.
Using the second volume of Building a Godly Home (Joel Beeke and Scott Brown's edited and modernized version of William Gouge's classic work, Domestical Duties) as its guide, this six part video series is designed to help husbands love their wives as Christ loved the church. Although specifically directed to husbands, these discussions are valuable to all, for they carefully consider the everyday matters of married life. The foundation of Gouge's counsel to married couples is his exposition of Ephesians 5:21–33, which is presented in volume 1.
William Gouge brings biblical clarity to the husband-wife relationship, analyzing the minutest aspects of married life, yet not losing sight of the big picture. He goes to the heart of the matter.
Husbands Who Love and Lead Their Wives
True leaders understand the importance of winning a person's conscience; otherwise, you may be pressuring them to act against what they believe is right. To lead effectively, a husband must understand this principle. How should a husband respond when his wife's conscience runs contrary to some lawful thing that he wants her to do, or when she feels a false guilt or fear of something good? What should a husband do if his wife misapplies the Word of God? How can a husband correct his wife in a way that shows her love and honor?
According to William Gouge, love and compassion must fill and shape a husband's use of authority. How does a husband stir up his wife’s love in the same way Christ woos His church? How should a husband respond when he sees sin in his wife? How can he set her free to fulfill her responsibilities towards God and her family? Again, Gouge gives practical answers we to these hard questions that we face.
Gouge warns husbands not misuse their authority. They must not be harsh, or demand too much of their wives in regards to hospitality, and the labor that comes with it. They must not be exceedingly suspicious or controlling. A Christian husband's authority should not discourage his wife but encourage her.
Love speaks many languages, and Gouge calls men to use them all; a good husband can encourage his wife with a cheerful smile one day and a special gift another. He strongly emphasizes the husband’s responsibility to provide for his wife’s financial needs. He urges men to show their wives tenderness and compassion when they are sick, and especially when they face the travails of pregnancy and childbirth. At every turn, Gouge calls husbands to love their wives as Christ did the church. Sincerely. Sacrificially. Affectionately.
William Gouge provides husbands and wives with one of the most detailed and honest treatments of the marriage relationship ever written. He writes from a solid biblical position, and with a sweet spirit of love and mercy. Though a bit antiquated at times, we trust that you will find this book extremely insightful and helpful. May the Lord send His Spirit to use this book as an effective instrument to transform many marriages, blessing generations to come.
This download includes six hours of video along with notes for study and MP3 audio versions of each session.