Should a husband love a wife even if he believes she is unloveable?
Joel Beeke explains in this video that a wife may be difficult to live with but a husband is to love their wife no matter what. She is the wife that God has sovereignly given to him.
They are not to ask how they are being treated by their wife but they are to unconditionally love her as Christ loves the Church. The love of a husband is not conditioned upon his wife loving him first.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NKJV) - "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."