Have you ever needed some detailed, practical counsel for your marriage? Have you ever wished someone would speak to the everyday matters that pop up in your marriage and family life? Have you ever heard sound teaching, but wished for more than broad theological principles? You needed someone to speak frankly. You wanted someone to show you exactly how biblical principles applied in the real situations you are experiencing.
This six-part video series is based on William Gouge’s classic work, “Domestical Duties,” using the edited and modernized version by Joel Beeke and Scott Brown. This series is designed to help husbands love their wives like Christ loved the church. We will be taking critical chapters in the book that are specifically directed to husbands.
In this second volume of the series, Building a Godly Home, William Gouge (1575–1653) does just that. His marriage counsel is focused on the everyday matters that husbands and wives experience while living together. The basis for his counsel to married couples, is his exposition of Ephesians 5:21–33, already presented in
Gouge delivers very detailed explanations of the various parts of the husband-wife relationship. He analyzes nearly every possible aspect of married life. You will be amazed at the probing detail with which he examines these matters. He exposes the minutest parts of marriage. Yet he does not lose sight of the big picture. He goes to the heart of the matter.
Husbands Who Love and Lead Their Wives
Christian leaders understand how important it is to win the consciences of people so that you are not pressuring them to act against what they believe is right, and the husband’s leadership in the home is no exception to this rule. What should a husband do when his wife’s conscience is against some lawful thing he wants her to do? What should a husband do when his wife feels a false fear or guilt about something good? What should a husband do if his wife is misapplying the Word of God? How should a husband correct his wife in a way that shows her love and honor?
Gouge addresses the centrality of love and compassion for a good husband, and discusses how love must fill and shape his use of authority. How does a husband stir up his wife’s love in the same way Christ wooed His church? How should a husband respond when he sees sin in his wife? How can he set her free to fulfill her responsibilities towards God and their family? Again, Gouge’s treatment gives the answers we need to the real questions we face.
Gouge shows concern that husbands not misuse their authority. They must not be harsh. They must not become too demanding in hospitality and the labors that go with it. They should make sure they are not being too suspicious or controlling. Their use of authority should not discourage their wives, but encourage them.
Love speaks many languages, and Gouge calls the man to use them all, from a kind and cheerful facial expression to giving her special gifts. He strongly emphasizes the husband’s responsibility to provide for his wife’s financial needs. He urges men to show their wives tenderness and compassion when they are sick, especially when they face the travails of pregnancy and childbirth. At every turn, Gouge summons husbands to the high calling of loving their wives—as Christ did the church—with sacrificial, affectionate service.
William Gouge provides husbands and wives one of the most detailed and honest treatments of the husband and wife relationship ever written. He speaks from a solid biblical position and with a sweet spirit of love and mercy throughout. Though a bit antiquated at times, we trust that you will find this book extremely insightful and helpful. May the Lord send His Spirit with His truth, so that this book will be an effective instrument to transform many marriages, to the blessing of generations to come.
This download includes six hours of video along with notes for study and MP3 audio versions of each session.
This six part video series is based on William Gouge’s classic work, “Domestical Duties,” using the edited and modernized version by Joel Beeke and Scott Brown. This series is designed to help husbands love their wives like Christ loved the church. We will be taking critical chapters in the book that are specifically directed to husbands.
SessionTopicGuest SpeakerSession #1Authority, pp180-195Joel Beeke, Scott BrownSession #2Gentleness, pp196-214Joel Beeke, Scott BrownSession #3Correcting, pp215-224Jeff Pollard, Scott BrownSession #4Kindness, pp225-236Sam Waldron, Scott BrownSession #5Provision, pp237-256Derek Thomas, Scott BrownSession #6Love, pp257-273Jeff Pollard, Scott Brown
Scott T. Brown is the President of the National Center for Family-Integrated Churches and pastor at Hope Baptist Church in Wake Forest, North Carolina. Scott graduated from California State University in Fullerton with a degree in History and received a Master of Divinity degree from Talbot School of Theology. He gives his time to expository preaching and local pastoral ministry, as well as conferences on Biblical doctrine and church and family reformation. He and his wife Deborah have four grown children. Scott helps people think through the two greatest evangelistic and discipleship institutions God has provided — the church and the family.
Dr. Joel R. Beeke serves as President and Professor of Systematic Theology and Homiletics, as well as Academic Dean for students from the Heritage Reformed Congregations. He is currently a pastor of the Heritage Reformed Congregation in Grand Rapids, Michigan, a position he has held for 30 years. He is also editor of the Banner of Sovereign Grace Truth, editorial director of Reformation Heritage Books, president of Inheritance Publishers, and vice-president of the Dutch Reformed Translation Society. He has written, co-authored, or edited eighty books and contributed over two thousand articles to Reformed books, journals, periodicals, and encyclopedias. His Ph.D. (1988) from Westminster Theological Seminary is in Reformation and Post-Reformation Theology. He and his wife, Mary, have 3 children: Calvin, Esther, and Lydia.
By God’s grace Jeff Pollard was converted to Jesus Christ from a career in rock music in the early 1980s. Though religious from his youth, his true conversion at age thirty brought him to understand and then to preach God’s sovereign grace. God’s Spirit and Word awakened him to his responsibilities as husband and father as well as to God’s vision for families. Jeff is now an elder of Mt. Zion Bible Church, Pensacola, Florida. He is the editor of the Free Grace Broadcaster and author of Christian Modesty and the Public Undressing of America and Do You Know Jesus Christ?
Dr. Derek W.H. Thomas, a native of Wales, is the Senior Minister at First Presbyterian Church (ARP) in Columbia, South Carolina. He is also the Professor of Systematic and Historical Theology at Reformed Theological Seminary (Atlanta), and the Editorial Director for the Alliance of Confessing Evangelicals. He previously served as the Chairman of the Theology Department at Reformed Theological Seminary (Jackson) and the Minister of Teaching at First Presbyterian Church (PCA) in Jackson, Mississippi. He holds a Bachelor of Science in Mathematics from the University of Wales, a Masters of Divinity from Reformed Theological Seminary (Jackson), and a PhD from the University of Wales (Lampeter) in Calvin and the Book of Job. He was ordained in the Evangelical Church of Ireland, and served Stranmillis Evangelical Presbyterian Church in Belfast for 17 years before moving to the United States. He has published more than twenty books and contributed to many others.
He and his wife, Rosemary, have two grown children and two grandchildren, a dog named Luther, and a somewhat dysfunctional cat named Chloe. He is passionate about classical music, opera, blue cheese and snobby coffee.